Most Malaysian Chinese are educated abroad and have no interest in marrying a local boy.
With regards a tai-tai, they’re somewhat easy to spot… The trick is to show interest in them, in food and in Malaysia. Flattery will get you everywhere.
If a tai-tai finds you amusing or entertaining she will parade you socially and this is your avenue for introductions.
Never mention femdom explicitly.
Quietly verbalize your belief that women do a better job than men, are vastly more attractive, look divine in pantyhose etc.
This is basically letting them know that you are receptive.
Marriage is another level altogether.
The tai-tai may or may not want use of you herself, and may act as marriage broker.
Prospects will be young, fit and healthy Chinese looking to marry into money.
Look for pantyhose and a certain propriety towards you.